because of the attrition thing my phrasing mid convo to b came off as prob shifting blame to her but to me it was more so about worrying about attrition, which neither of us can control.
her response, during the middle of her own separate busy work, to my worry is that
- we have to work with this situation
- things only go down from 96 progressively, by how much margin is unknown
- you will never have a perfect run
three statements as her defense to my one worry that didn't intend to put mental pressure on her but did. thus the following serves as a very clear reminder:
- for any repeating odd situations, by that scenario some solutions or passive acceptance has already been thought out by myself. no need to stress about it and just move on, and don't bring up repeated issues to b.
- for any new situations, smth that i have never seen but she has either seen it or hasn't, especially on the bio front, bring that matter to her. for this case, if she can fix the issue she would've already fixed it, if she didn't know beforehand she will fix it now... however, if she expresses the fact that she cannot positively contribute to the problem, that responsibility should then be assigned to either me or no one. in other words, neutrally acknowledge/accept the new information about the uncontrollable variable(s) and either ACT or LET IT GO. DO NOT GO BACK AND FORTH WITH HER on something that cannot be resolved by either one of us. it wastes her energy and patience.
and this is the most important thing: im here as a problem solver, not someone who causes problems. the worst i can end any convo regarding issues is "i will see what i can do" (neutral); the best way is to end the convo is to announce that the problem is resolved by me.
only neutral or positive news come from me.
today is a sign that i should restrain my degree of complaints. this should be as far as i should go. from now on, execute without nagging.
to repeat once more: i am here to solve problems not create problems; i have an easier routine and workload than her, and therefore im no position to challenge her on an issue that she herself cannot solve. so for the matter of any repeated old issue, react as i have previously best designed during the first encounter; for newly arised issues, think with reason, and either act (to resolve) or let it slide (to accept).
don't be a burden when they have already decided to lend 1 hour per day, and a total of 8k on me. yes, on me. and the prospect that i will bring something meaningful.